The family of origin resources and Self DIfferentiation reading list:

Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone by Brene Brown 

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Growing Yourself Up: How to bring your best to all of life’s relationships by Jenny Brown  

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It Takes One to Tango: How I Rescued My Marriage with (Almost) No Help from My Spouse and How You Can, Too by Winifred M. Reilly 

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If You Met My Family, You'd Understand: A Family Systems Primer by Jack Shitama 

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Extraordinary Relationships: A New Way of Thinking about Human Interactions by Dr Roberta M. Gilbert 

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The Dance of Anger: A Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner 

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The Dance of Intimacy: A Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships by Harriet Lerner

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The Dance of Fear: Rising Above Anxiety, Fear, and Shame to Be Your Best and Bravest Self by Harriet Lerner

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The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate by Harriet Lerner

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Your Mindful Compass: Breakthrough Strategies For Navigating Life/Work Relationships In Any Social Jungle by Andrea M. Schara

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The Eight Concepts of Bowen Theory by Dr Roberta M. Gilbert

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Connecting With Our Children : Guiding Principles for Parents in a Troubled World by Dr Roberta M. Gilbert

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My Family My Self: A Journal of Discovery by Victoria Harrison

 

Family Ties That Bind: A self-help guide to change through Family of Origin therapy by Ronald W. Richardson

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ACOA Resources:

 

Adult Children of Alcoholics by Janet Woititz 

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Twelve Steps of Adult Children Steps Workbook by Adult Children of Alcoholics  World Service Organization

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Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Families by Adult Children of Alcoholics  World Service Organization

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The Complete ACOA Sourcebook: Adult Children of Alcoholics at Home, at Work and in Love by Janet G. Woititz

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After the Tears: Helping Adult Children of Alcoholics Heal Their Childhood Trauma by Jane Middleton-Moz 

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Perfect Daughters: Adult Daughters of Alcoholics by Robert  J. Ackerman

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Struggle for Intimacy (Adult Children of Alcoholics series) by Janet G. Woititz 

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Loving an Adult Child of an Alcoholic by Douglas Bay

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It Will Never Happen to Me: Growing Up with Addiction as Youngsters, Adolescents, and Adults by Claudia Black

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Healing The Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families by Charles Whitfield 

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Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw 

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An Adult Child's Guide to What's 'Normal' by John Friel & Linda Friel 

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The Complete ACOA Sourcebook: Adult Children of Alcoholics at Home, at Work and in Love by Janet  G. Woititz

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Recovery: A Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics by Herbert Gravits (Advanced read)

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Resources for Dealing with  Narcissists:

 

Healing from a Narcissistic Relationship: A Caretaker's Guide to Recovery, Empowerment, and Transformation by Margalis Fjelstad 

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Healing the Adult Children of Narcissists: Essays on The Invisible War Zone and Exercises for Recovery by Shahida Arabi 

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The Narcissist in Your Life: Recognizing the Patterns and Learning to Break Free by Julie Hall

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The Object of My Affection is in my Reflection: Coping with Narcissist By Rokelle Lerner

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How To Kill A Narcissist: Debunking The Myth Of Narcissism And Recovering From Narcissistic Abuse By JH Simon

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Killing Narcissism: Exposing & Transcending The Narcissist Regime By JH Simon

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Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed by Wendy T. Behary

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Trapped in the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in their Struggle for Self by Elan Golomb

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Why Is It Always About You?: The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss

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Who's Pulling Your Strings?: How to Break the Cycle of Manipulation and Regain Control of Your Life by Harriet Braiker 

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Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People by Jackson MacKenzie

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Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward

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Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life by Margalis Fjelstad 

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Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of inevitable Harm With Psychopaths, Sociopaths & Narcissists by Sandra L. Brown

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How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved by Sandra L. Brown

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Traumatic Narcissism: Relational Systems of Subjugation by Daniel Shaw (Advanced but good read)

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Books for Professionals, Therapists & Really advanced readers:

Bringing Systems Thinking to Life: Expanding the Horizons for Bowen Family Systems Theory by Ona Cohn Bregman & Charles M. White

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The Therapy Triangle: Empowering You with the Knowledge to Heal by Robert Burkham

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Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships by David Schnarch

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Family Therapy in Clinical practice by Murray Bowen

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Family Evaluation by Michael e. Kerr & Murray Bowen

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You Can Go Home Again: Reconnecting with Your Family Monica McGoldrick

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Bowen Family Systems Theory by Daniel V. Papero

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Triangles: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives by Peter Titelman 

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Emotional Cutoff: Bowen Family  Systems Theory Perspectives by Peter Titelman 

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Clinical Applications of Bowen  Family Systems Theory by Peter Titelman 

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The Therapists Own Family: Toward the Differentiation of Self by Peter Titelman 

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The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment by Stephanie Donaldson Pressman & Robert M. Pressman

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