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Family & Self Differentiation Reading List:
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Growing Yourself Up: How to bring your best to all of life’s relationships by Jenny Brown
Buy on Amazon
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If You Met My Family, You'd Understand: A Family Systems Primer by Jack Shitama
Buy on Amazon
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Everything Isn't Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down
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It Takes One to Tango: How I Rescued My Marriage with (Almost) No Help from My Spouse and How You Can, Too by Winifred M. Reilly
Buy on Amazon
Extraordinary Relationships: A New Way of Thinking about Human Interactions by Dr Roberta M. Gilbert
Buy on Amazon
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Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone by Brene Brown
The Dance of Anger: A Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner
Buy on Amazon
The Dance of Intimacy: A Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships by Harriet Lerner
The Dance of Fear: Rising Above Anxiety, Fear, and Shame to Be Your Best and Bravest Self by Harriet Lerner
The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate by Harriet Lerner
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Your Mindful Compass: Breakthrough Strategies For Navigating Life/Work Relationships In Any Social Jungle by Andrea M. Schara
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The Eight Concepts of Bowen Theory by Dr Roberta M. Gilbert
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Healing Your Aloneness: Finding Love and Wholeness Through Your Inner Child
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Family Ties That Bind: A self-help guide to change through Family of Origin therapy by Ronald W. Richardson
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Connecting With Our Children : Guiding Principles for Parents in a Troubled World by Dr Roberta M. Gilbert
My Family My Self: A Journal of Discovery by Victoria Harrison
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Resources for Dealing with Codependency:
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Facing Codependence: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Pia Mellody
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Codependent No More: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Melody Beattie
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Resources for Dealing with Narcissistic Parents & Family:
Healing from a Narcissistic Relationship: A Caretaker's Guide to Recovery, Empowerment, and Transformation by Margalis Fjelstad
Healing the Adult Children of Narcissists: Essays on The Invisible War Zone and Exercises for Recovery by Shahida Arabi
The Narcissist in Your Life: Recognizing the Patterns and Learning to Break Free by Julie Hall
The Object of My Affection is in my Reflection: Coping with Narcissist By Rokelle Lerner
How To Kill A Narcissist: Debunking The Myth Of Narcissism And Recovering From Narcissistic Abuse By JH Simon
Killing Narcissism: Exposing & Transcending The Narcissist Regime By JH Simon
Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed by Wendy T. Behary
Trapped in the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in their Struggle for Self by Elan Golomb
Why Is It Always About You?: The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss
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Who's Pulling Your Strings?: How to Break the Cycle of Manipulation and Regain Control of Your Life by Harriet Braiker
Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People by Jackson MacKenzie
Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward
Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life by Margalis Fjelstad
Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of inevitable Harm With Psychopaths, Sociopaths & Narcissists by Sandra L. Brown
How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved by Sandra L. Brown
Traumatic Narcissism: Relational Systems of Subjugation by Daniel Shaw (Advanced but good read)
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Resources for Dealing with Alcoholic Parents & Family:
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Adult Children of Alcoholics by Janet Woititz
Twelve Steps of Adult Children Steps Workbook by Adult Children of Alcoholics World Service Organization
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Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Families by Adult Children of Alcoholics World Service Organization
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The Complete ACOA Sourcebook: Adult Children of Alcoholics at Home, at Work and in Love by Janet G. Woititz
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After the Tears: Helping Adult Children of Alcoholics Heal Their Childhood Trauma by Jane Middleton-Moz
Perfect Daughters: Adult Daughters of Alcoholics by Robert J. Ackerman
Struggle for Intimacy (Adult Children of Alcoholics series) by Janet G. Woititz
Loving an Adult Child of an Alcoholic by Douglas Bay
It Will Never Happen to Me: Growing Up with Addiction as Youngsters, Adolescents, and Adults by Claudia Black
Healing The Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families by Charles Whitfield
Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw
An Adult Child's Guide to What's 'Normal' by John Friel & Linda Friel
The Complete ACOA Sourcebook: Adult Children of Alcoholics at Home, at Work and in Love by Janet G. Woititz
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Recovery: A Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics by Herbert Gravits (Advanced read)
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Books for Professionals, Therapists & Really advanced readers:
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Bringing Systems Thinking to Life: Expanding the Horizons for Bowen Family Systems Theory by Ona Cohn Bregman & Charles M. White
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The Therapy Triangle: Empowering You with the Knowledge to Heal by Robert Burkham
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Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships by David Schnarch
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Family Therapy in Clinical practice by Murray Bowen
Family Evaluation by Michael e. Kerr & Murray Bowen
You Can Go Home Again: Reconnecting with Your Family Monica McGoldrick
Bowen Family Systems Theory by Daniel V. Papero
Triangles: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives by Peter Titelman
Emotional Cutoff: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives by Peter Titelman
Clinical Applications of Bowen Family Systems Theory by Peter Titelman
The Therapists Own Family: Toward the Differentiation of Self by Peter Titelman
The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment by Stephanie Donaldson Pressman & Robert M. Pressman