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Hi! I’m Jerry Wise. I have been working in the area of therapy, consulting, and training since 1979. I have been associated with Mark Smith, director of Family Tree since the mid-1970’s. I joined Family Tree Counseling Associates several years ago. I have degrees in political science, music, psychology, theology, marriage and family therapy and religious education and church history. Over the years I have been a pastor, a Bishop, a professional musician, factory worker, certified medical coder, vocal teacher, auto harp teacher, marriage and family therapist, business owner, chemical dependency counselor, social worker, and organizational consultant. One thing I have enjoyed and found the most helpful to digging my life out of the quicksand of Codependency, low self-esteem, and addiction, has been a strong family systems approach to healing. Murray Bowen, the grandfather of family therapy and family systems, has helped me to understand myself and my relationships more than any other perspectives. Over the years many have said the insights from a family systems approach have helped them tremendously. I would like to inaugurate (this blog began back in the 1990’s) this blog as a conversation about applying family systems approach to those of us desiring to

• get unstuck

• find and use our voice

• overcome codependency

· find and experience a real sense of self

· • experience staying connected while being ourselves

I would like to support those who are looking to understand their relationships and why we do what we do with others in our marriages and relationships, at church, at work, in all our social interactions. Welcome to a new blog “Systems for Living.”(1990’s) If you choose to take this journey with me, I guarantee, you’ll never be the same. Join me and others in the quest for a real self and a real life. If you want to contact me, call me at


317-919-6264 or jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com

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Beginning a journey

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Joan Henry
Joan Henry
Feb 23, 2020

Dear Seeker, I so understand all you are saying about your healing process. When we begin to wake up to truth or start walking out of the fog enmeshment with a toxic person causes, I agree it is very overwhelming and anxiety provoking. It would often make me feel frozen in that fear of separateness. I never had been separate before and it feels very unsettling. Almost like you are free falling without a parachute. I remember saying to Jerry sometimes it was easier staying in denial but I was so unhappy there because I was truly not myself. I encourage you to keep moving forward, learning to be a separate self. It is hard work and it takes courage…

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Sumina
Sumina
Feb 22, 2020

Hello Joan, I think the same. Jerry's work gives explanation and structure to the healing journey as well as providing tools not just theories to practice. When affordable, I have been having counselling for a decade but most of the work has be done and found on my own. I have benefited from what I would describe as a kind spiritual approach but feel no better. It is confusing as feeling worse, coming out of denial, feeling past pain triggered by current events may also be apart of the healing process. It can feel like being in a pit of pain with no way out.Perhaps healing takes place in its own time and own way. I am so glad …

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Joan Henry
Joan Henry
Feb 22, 2020

It is amazing the difference a Family systems approach has made in my life. I had been in therapy with another therapist for 9 mos prior to finding Jerry’s videos. Don’t get me wrong that therapist helped but I found myself feeling like there was something deeper in me that she could not reach. As I think back she told me more techniques to try to change the other person. One visit with Jerry I remember thinking he is going to help me reach that spot no one else could. Thank God for Murray Bowen and Jerry Wise! Your work is fantastic Jerry!

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